Category: 4th Dimension in Healing

You can choose where your conscious attention is directed.


What are you thinking about? Right now? 5 seconds ago?


The thoughts you entertain direct your attention.

(the thoughts you entertain give you a good idea of where your true attention actually is)

Most of your energy is not with your thoughts.

Most of your energy is used to keep your shadows in the dark, to protect your core wound and to keep the conflict between your core wound and your deepest values.


Your darkest shadow is the conflict between your core wound and your deepest values. Your core wound is where your deepest fears lie.

Your deepest values are the playground/ garden in which your soul wants to play.

As long as you choose to put your conscious attention primarily on what is happening outside of yourself, your unconscious will rule your life. Which means the greater part of your energy will be tied up

As so much of your energy is tied up, you feel the need to gather energy from outside sources.

The easiest source for energy is from other people in the form of their attention. The way you manipulate others into giving you their attention (energy) is directly tied to your core wound/shadow

Your biggest problem is the fact that you are cut off from the Source of energy within you.

You are looking to be fed from outside of yourself.

Your core wound is that which has been built like a wall around your access to your source energy.

This source is deep within your body, located in your pelvis, protected by the first 3 chakras. As long as you are cut off from source, you will engage in drama and behaviors to secure energy from others.

Once you become aware of your primary control drama and what value/wound you are protecting (where your energy is engaged) you can consciously choose to direct your attention on embodying a more expansive aspect of your True Self


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You did not choose the bad things that happened to you in your life. Even if you did happen to grow from them. NO ONE chooses the bad, negative, hurtful and unfortunate or tragic things that happen; whether they are accidents or illnesses, attacks or abuse.

What I have observed and found confirmation of in ancient Taoist teachings and shamanic healing practices from all over the world, is summed up as this-

“90% of our problems are caused by our ancestors.” Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len

·        90% of the situations you experience, the illness you develop, even the thoughts running in your mind- are not yours.

In its most simple form on the physical level, your body is made of cells- these cells are carrying the information of your ancestors. Emotional trauma turns genes on and/or off and is passed down through the generations. We all carry ancestral memory within us, and it is these memories that are triggered within us beginning in childhood that are the major determinants of our life path.

When those in the new age movement claim we all create our own reality and that everything happens for a reason, that we choose for the situations in our lives to happen in the way they happen… what are the most common reactions?

·         Guilt… I created this bed of nails, now I have to lie in it.

·        Anger…. No one chooses to be born as a poor hungry child that dies in war, or no one chooses to be abused, raped, murdered or worse.

And that is absolutely true. No one chooses the bad things that happen to them.

When you are born and begin to incarnate into this world, you inherit a body that carries the emotional imprints of a least 7 generations of your ancestors. The unique mixture of these emotional imprints from both maternal and paternal sides affects how you experience your environment and how you express yourself. These are further defined in childhood.

The memories and emotional trauma of our ancestors that we carry in our bodies chooses for us. (Law of attraction explained.) This means, we unconsciously choose behaviors and situations that repeat/ match our ancestors behaviors and circumstances.

Until it doesn’t anymore; that is until we make that fact conscious and choose to live differently.

Living differently is consciously choosing to inhabit your cells, to claim your health, your circumstances, and your life as your own. Transforming the trauma of your ancestors into the gifts they were meant to be.


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What does being embodied look and feel like?

When you are embodied you are truly present and deeply relaxed in your body, moving through the world from your deepest center. In this state there is no mind chatter. You feel every bit of your body, and your movements are intentional, strong, effortless and fluid.

Your intuition (thoughts that arise from within) leads you effortlessly through life (your movement, actions and response).

You do not perceive yourself as separate from your body. You are not a bright spirit encaged within a physical form. You take ownership and are one with it. You feel the aliveness within life. You have brought your compassionate awareness to all of your organs and bones, your muscles and blood, each of your cells. You as Soul become intertwined with the physical, no longer separate. Every cell pulsates with spirit.

It is Soul that engages the body in a mystical dance through matter.

To begin the process of embodiment, you begin grounding into your body and before you begin that, it is really important for you to know what to expect

Being grounded is being very present in your body.

For many people, being more fully engaged with the body and grounded into it is comforting in the beginning. Many describe the physical feeling as being heavy, they feel shorter, more compact, their legs and feet tingle. A sense of calmness and peace overcomes one.

Being in the body means feeling it!

All of it.

This is where it often gets messy; and sometimes confusing.

When you are present in your body, you will begin to feel all the feelings you have not wanted to feel.

If you are like most people, you began leaving your body in early childhood. There were feelings that were too big, too overwhelming to be fully felt in the tiny body you inhabited at the time.

These not felt feelings are not necessarily all “negative”, sometimes, actually quite often our young selves felt overflowing joy that wanted to be expressed through loud singing, laughing and/or dancing and we were chastised for it, usually vehemently. That in itself was enough to cause us to disengage from those feelings. And in doing so, we disengaged from the body.

These feelings have been stored in your body and as you return to it, those feelings will arise to be felt.

Physical pain and discomfort may also emerge in the form of long forgotten issues/ discomforts you “used to” have. Old injuries may flare up, pain and discomfort you are experiencing now may get “worse”.

That doesn’t seem fair now does it? You want to feel better not worse!

 Because parts of you will come up and say exactly that, “it’s not fair” “I don’t want that hurt” that Self-care becomes paramount.

Self -care is not grounding, though some do describe it that way. Self-care is what helps keep us in our bodies, and is absolutely necessary to ensure not only the process of healing but to being healthy in every aspect of our being and to fulfilling the expression our Soul longs for. The self- care I am speaking of is not bubble baths and chocolate. Though that certainly feels fabulous and can be a wonderful treat and needed respite.

The self- care I speak of is self-compassion. Not only the cessation of negative judgement and berating self-talk, but gentle acceptance of the one doing the judging and berating.

One deeply supportive self-care practice is listening to the body and the traumatized parts of one’s self with compassionate curiosity. One way to begin doing this is to lay a hand gently on the part of you that is hurting or uncomfortable and to quietly say “Hmmmmm…..I wonder”. Just “I wonder”…. Don’t even wonder what yet. No expectations. No judgements.

Do this.

As your practice.

Just for today.


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